I’m in need of a time management boot camp like none other. Somehow I manage to get about one thing done each day, usually cleaning the kitchen, about 4 times. It’s like groundhog day around here and I never leave the damn kitchen. At least it’s clean, right?
My lack of time management, and the ability to accomplish more than the kitchen, was kindly pointed out by my husband. There was a recent incident with the cat, and vomit, that led to this conversation but in my defense, I don’t get 10 minutes alone the entire day. When you have 4 kids there is the high likelihood that someone is going to need something, pretty much all the time. That is the reason I forgot to clean up the mess left my our sweet cat. Just so you know, I did get it cleaned up after everyone, including my husband, was in bed.
There was one time when I was working and I had 3 kids. It was hard to balance it all. I always felt as though I had no quality time with my kids, that I was constantly rushing around, constantly telling my kids to hurry up, fighting about who’s turn it was to work late, who’s turn it was to take or pick up the kids and I was pretty much exhausted all the time.
So I had an idea. It was the most brilliant idea I had ever come up with!
I should stay home.
Because, clearly, that would be waaaaay easier than working. Duh. I’d have plenty of time to do laundry, clean the house, do fun craft projects with the kids, go on walks, play, enjoy life. I could cook dinner every night. I’d be a brand new woman with all of my extra time to do all of the things I had to squeeze in after work and on weekends.
Let me just say, it certainly isn’t that simple. I wish it were but after a year of staying home, and adding another kid to the mix, I’m still scrambling to get things done, to find time to actually play with my kids, to keep the house clean, to do the laundry, to plan a garage sale, to keep up with my blog, to find time for myself.
I have friends who are working moms, friends who are stay at home moms. I respect both equally because until you’ve done both jobs, you have no idea how challenging they both are. I’m struggling to make my current job one that I am successful at and one that fills me with the validation that my paying job did.
This is a fulltime gig. There are no breaks. There are no paid days off. No company retreats. And certainly no free tickets to concerts. Hell, I can’t even leave work behind because I never get to leave. I work 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Which is why when my husband asks if I think I’ll go back to work after the kids are all in school (that’s 5 years from now, in case you were wondering) I laugh and say, “Are you effing kidding me? That’s when this job will actually be easy.” Duh.